Porn and Intimacy: How It Can Be Used to Elevate Your Sex

Not all pornography is created equal. And what most lovers like is pornography that’s erotic and stimulating, enhancing sex play. You may have been wondering about watching porn during sex and how it works. That’s what the Top Drawer Toys blog is here for! Let’s talk about how porn can elevate your sex to another level of erotic enjoyment for both partners.

Talk About Porn and Intimacy First

At Top Drawer Toys, we’re proponents of sexual health and sex positivity. To facilitate those desirable states, we’re also huge proponents of communication. Sex is a form of communication, so talking about what you both want before engaging sexually is highly recommended. You need to be speaking the same language when you’re having sex or things won’t go as planned!

Porn means different things to different people. You may be a BDSM couple. You may be vanilla. Whatever your sexuality or gender, you need to be clear with each other about the kind of porn you that turns you on. You also need to be clear about what your boundaries are – something you BDSM folks know well! If you’re going to be watching porn with your lover during sex, then both of you need to find it erotically stimulating. This is an activity for two, not one, unless you’re flying solo.

Watching Porn During Sex Ethically

The pornography industry is subject to minimal regulation. This reality has created a massive rise in titles that are exploitative and sometimes violent. There is also the prominence of online vendors like PornHub, currently enmeshed in legal proceedings, mostly because the enterprise’s cavalier approach to responding to flags indicating illegal content, and (of course) money. Pornography is a lucrative business and regulating it can be challenging, even once a major player like PornHub’s been dragged through the legal mill repeatedly.

But PornHub isn’t the only show in town! it’s possible to bring porn to your intimacy successfully and happily. Decide what the boundaries are and what kind of porn you both want to view while sexing each other up. Then, hunt down ethical, genuinely erotic pornography that’s exciting and stimulating.

The Sunny Side of Pornography

Sex is a beautiful thing and there’s nothing wrong with watching people engage in it, so long as everyone involved agrees to what they’re doing, to being filmed, and to the public distribution of the resulting materials. And when porn is done right, it’s the ideal companion to intimacy, supporting health-enhancing orgasms!

Watching porn during sex doesn’t mean you need to support Big Porn sites like PornHub to do it. There is erotica to be had from independent producers, including the people seen in porn – the performers! That’s about as homegrown as it gets, leaving money in the pockets of sex workers and out of PornHub’s bottom line.

And there’s plenty of variety coming from Indy producers, giving you a rich vein of erotic gold to draw on for your lascivious pleasure! 

Some Timely Tips for Enjoying Porn and Intimacy

There’s a reason everyone wants a wall-mounted television in the bedroom and this is it! But getting your sexy ducks in a row before unleashing the erotica will prevent unnecessary interruptions that can kill the mood.

• Get your props organized. Lube, cuffs, vibrators, cock rings, crops, and floggers all need to be close to hand. Nobody likes hunting for the lube when you’re watching porn during sex!
• Put the remote control with the props. Another thing you don’t want to scuttle around in the nude looking for is the remote. 
• No Doritos allowed. You may like to snack while viewing but Dorito dust is the Devil when it comes to hanky panky. Orange fingerprints on bums are not erotic. Dorito dust also transfers “elsewhere”. And “elsewhere” is not a good place for that stuff to be.

Porn, Intimacy, and Understanding

Science has a name for loving couples who watch pornography together – “collaborative pornography viewers”. Collaboration between lovers is the foundation of happiness and when couples view pornography together, benefits overflow, according to this 2020 study.

The study revealed that communication was enhanced by porn and that porn empowered couples to have more open conversations about sex. Collaborative pornography viewing also improved couples’ ability to effectively negotiate in all areas of the relationship. These are benefits well worth exploring, so enjoy your collaboration!

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